By Georgia (Jo) Kent
“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Luke 6:45
Why are you angry? If someone’s angry in my presence, I automatically assume that they are mad at me? I frantically begin to search through my thoughts for what I did wrong. It wasn’t until I began to grow in my faith that I learned how wrong that was. I think of two things. First, why was I so insecure that I automatically assumed that I had done something wrong? And, secondly, what causes someone to become so angry that they feel its okay to share their anger with those around them? I realize, were not all so insecure that we take blame for another person’s anger. That insecurity was birthed from emotional baggage in our lives, and usually only effects us as individuals. Anger, however, is wide reaching and destructive to everyone in its path. It takes a deep relationship with God to begin a work of healing in both of these areas.
“For man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” James 1:20
Anger is a God-given emotion that warns a person that something is wrong. You cannot stop the emotion from arising, but how you express your anger determines whether it is sinful or appropriate. Anger also gives Satan a foothold in our soul. Our actions when were angry hurt others and destroy our testimony. Habits are difficult to break.
“Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent.” Psalms 4:4
We need to learn new ways to handle life’s upsets. The first step in overcoming problems, whether they are physical, emotional or spiritual, is to admit you are in need and desire to change. As we give ourselves over to the Holy Spirit, He will help us to grow in self-control. The Holy Spirit can teach us how to express our anger appropriately. We can never experience the fullness of God’s love through the veil of anger. The bible says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 Ask the Lord to teach you healthy ways to manage your anger. Without Him, we will continue to be in bondage to our anger.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you are sealed for the day of redemption.” Ephesians 4:29-30