Open Handed Advice

by Georgia Kent

“Warn those who are idle, encouraging the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone”. -1 Thessalonians 5:14

It is a huge challenge to learn how to properly give advice to others without being too pushy. It can be a struggle to offer advice when you feel that someone that you love is making a wrong decision.

I read a beautiful depiction about how to give advice with ‘Open Hands’ as a gift and not a judgment. Sometimes, when we give advice, we come across as judgmental and accusing. We need to be more timid and cautious. In the words of Thessalonians 5:14, the verse is clear that we should warn, encourage and  help others, but to do it with patience. We need to remember that when we give advice to someone that it is ultimately their journey to discover and grow in.

God places us in each other’s lives to be helpful and not hurtful. A dear friend once told me that “perfection is only in the individual”. That statement has come to play many times in my life when I am asked to give advice. What I think as perfect is not necessarily perfect for another person’s situation (just like the saying “one man’s ceiling is another man’s floor.) Always pray before giving advice and ask God to give you the words that will ultimately bring honor to Our Father in Heaven.

“Whatever you do, do it with all your heart as The Lord and not as man”. -Colossians 3:2